Are you already planning your New Year’s Resolutions? Have you decided that next year will be THE YEAR! Change is going to happen, it will stick!
We spend all Holiday Season hyping ourselves up for the big changes we are going to make. The new life we will create for ourselves. We cut ourselves slack in so many directions because when it is all over we will make the big changes. We will get our act in gear. Become the people we were always meant to be.
Then New Years rolls around, we try to take on way more than is acceptable, and all of our big changes end up crashing and burning. We try to change too many things all at once. Then none of them end up working.
What can we do to change this? How can we keep this obnoxious cycle from perpetuating? Why does it always happen this way? Oh the agony! Stop suffering, change now!
Here are some things you can do to change now:
Far too often we put things off. I will start in a few weeks. I will start after this hard time passes. After the Holidays, etc
When we wait, our results don’t come. When we wait, it is that much easier to keep waiting or to never start.
It is very important to know the end result you want to achieve. There is no way to get to your goal is you do not have one set in place. If you can see the big picture you can break it down and work on it piece by piece.
There is no need to try and eat the whole elephant at once. Try making small changes that will work you up toward reaching your goals. Take the smallest step possible and work up from there. Whether it is 5 push ups. Half a glass of water. New Shoes. Etc.
You will miss a day. Mistakes will be made. It will all be ok in the end! Do not beat yourself up because you at a cookie. If you get stuck in the monotony of life. This is why we take things one step at a time.
There are plenty of things, people, and other habits that can knock us off track from reaching our goals. As important as it is to stick to the positive changes we are making, it is just as important to stay away from the things that could bring us down or keep up stuck in the same place.
If you can be prepared for the best and the worst you have a better chance of success. Of course don’t allow your need to prepare to cause you to not start? Having healthy snacks prepared. Dreaming about the adventures you want to take. Or having an adventure bag in the car at all times.
Try putting some of the tips into place and CHANGE NOW! Seriously, do a few squats, leave for an adventure walk, call a family member, etc. Let us know what change you want to make and where you are starting!
Do you ever find yourself wishing for more time in a day? How about wondering where the day went? Or how are you supposed to be able to get everything on your to-do list accomplished? Wishing the feeling of overwhelm would go away already? Do not worry you are not alone! These are some of the most popular feelings I hear on a regular basis from clients and friends alike. I regularly get asked how do you do all of that? Do you ever sleep? How do you have so much energy?
Time management plays a big role in how we manage our lives, including setting our priorities, handling mundane daily tasks, and planning and preparing for the future. If we let time take over and lose our control it is very easy to let a lot of other things go to the overwhelm and chaos.
Understanding your life from a time perspective is fairly simple, however, I will not promise that it is easy. Many people get to the first step and break down or give up. It is ok if this happens, just promise yourself you will keep coming back to it until you have completed it and can move on.
Why is step one so difficult you ask??
Well, much like other areas in our lives, if it difficult because we are forced to get absolutely, 100%, serious and honest with ourselves. We have to take a full inventory of our lives, our activities, responsibilities, and our desired for where we want to go.
Part one actually has multiple parts, so we are going to start with the basics and then, build upon it. I am going to put in my work, so feel free to copy and paste as you need to. I encourage you to do this over a few days because undoubtedly more things will pop into your head, be sure you carry a pad and pen with you this week to capture them as you go…
I am sure you are wondering what the heck I am babbling on about… so here it goes:
Over the next week keep a running tally of everything you do! Every activity, responsibility, group, club, etc. Try to be as specific as possible. I personally like to break things down into the different parts, because I may not mind one part of a process of activity and really dislike another part of it. Example: Laundry — can be broken down into – sorting, washing, folding, putting away. Meals – shopping, prep, cooking, eating, clean up.
If you are going to do this on the computer consider doing this in excel with different tabs for the separate areas of your life… this may assist in keeping the overwhelm down a bit. WARNING: You may feel exasperation, dizziness, frustration, overwhelm, confusion, surprise, elation, or exhaustion looking at a complete list of all of the things you do.
When you are writing down your activities consider the following categories:
I would love it if you would share you experiences with this and how it is making you feel. Please reach out if you are feeling overwhelmed, or like you need to give up. I am happily here to support you and keep you moving through the process. If you need to step away and come back that is perfectly ok, but make sure you come back!
Every one of us from the lowest employee to the highest CEO, and everyone in between, has occasionally suffered from a lack of focus. We may get tired, groggy, anxious, or stressed and our ability to concentrate (and therefore, be productive) starts to slip away. Instead of chugging down another sugar-laden energy, or trying to stamp out your stress with another chocolate bar, try massage instead.
In a 1996 study published in the International Journal of Neuroscience, participants were divided up into two groups: one group who received a 15 minute chair massage twice a week for 5 weeks, and one group who were only asked to sit and relax for 15 minutes twice a week for 5 weeks. While both groups did experience increased relaxation and reported a less depressed mood, the massage group also experienced:
Clearly, massage has more benefits than just “feeling good”. Who knew that you could both be more relaxed and more productive simultaneously? But if your workplace doesn’t provide employee chair massage yet, never fear! You can still get many of the benefits of massage therapy through self-massage techniques. Just keep a tennis ball in your desk at work to roll out any tight or tired areas during the day. You can use the wall to help you in those hard-to-reach spots between your shoulder blades. Or you can lie on the floor with two tennis balls at the base of your skull to help release tension in your head before a headache sets in. Give it a try for 10-15 minutes every day, and see how much more alert and focused you can be at work.
Recently, I have upped my organizing material intake. This has in turn made me look around more closely at my environment and realized it has been a while since I have taken stock of what I have and how it is working for me. I have decided its high time I share with you my organizing process.
First, I want to break some illusion you may have that organizers are ALWAYS PERFECTLY ORGANIZED… it just doesn’t happen. We are humans, we sometimes get piles, we cannot always control life or the people in our lives. We generally can bounce back quicker than most because we have a god foundation to work off and in general freak out before it can ever get too bad.
That being said, I am the type of person who has moved on average once every 10-12 MONTHS of my life… so I was regularly doing major declutters, reestablishing systems, etc. However, last year was the first year in my adult life that I ever renewed a lease for my home. In addition to this, I am on my 3 set of roommates, hosted people on AirBnB and had a live-in boyfriend with his two kids on the weekends. My home has seen a lot over the last almost two years, and therefore, I decided it was time to do some overhauling using my personally designed organizing process. This new found energy could also be because I just read a book about minimalism and it really excites me!
I have vowed to take myself through the same organizing processes I work with my clients on, and share the experience with you. You can expect me to share my stories, ideas, thoughts, concerns, and the details of what exactly I have or am doing. I will do my best to share pictures, tips, tricks, and even horror stories.
The most important place to start is always with discovering your values, vision, and goals. Stay tuned for a break down on how to discover these three things, what to do with them, and how they play a part in completing the ultimate organizing process.
For more tips and information on whole life organization techniques TOPOrganizing.com is your go to resource.